Being Everyone Elses Door Mat

A friend or a partner frustrated on your behalf might say it outright.

Being everyone elses door mat.

Stop being such a doormat. We enjoy being with her him because we can make a much deeper connection. Stop being such a people pleaser. Stand up for yourself.

These are all signs of what i call being a human doormat pleasing others at your own expense or being passive. Everyone gives in order to make the work run smoothly and fairly. People pleasing behavior begins in childhood when parents praise a child for obeying them but discourage him or her from asserting themselves according to jay earley author of finding your life purpose. How about being with someone who is fully present.

Here are 5 ways to stop being someone s doormat. Don t let them walk all over you. Show them how work is a team effort. Maybe it s happened to you.

He asks you to leave after having sex. If you feel like everyone is asking for your help and time find ways to redirect the focus. But if you ve gone out four times and he s always at least one hour late you re being more and more of a doormat every time. Being with unavailable people is a struggle and building relationships with them extremely difficult.

Signs you re being too passive people take advantage of your kindness.